How to make changes to create a brighter future
We all face suffering at some time in our lives - sadness, loss, fear, anxiety but we can choose how we wish to respond, with fear or hope.
Hope helps us to stay positive about the future and our probability to succeed increases.
Our thoughts are so powerful to help us have a positive mindset. They form our beliefs and our beliefs determine our habits and behaviour.
If we want to change something in our lives, become less stressed, lose weight, stop smoking, exercise more, find a loving partner, be happy, achieve our dreams, etc. our thoughts and beliefs are crucial in creating this change.
Two limiting beliefs are:
I am not enough
I am not good enough, smart enough, clever enough, attractive enough, interesting enough, young enough, rich enough….
One of my clients was absolutely convinced that she was not attractive enough and very unlikely to find a loving partner and would live her life alone. This limiting belief was embedded in her from a very early age when she had been teased by her siblings and was still carrying the belief that she is not attractive enough into adulthood. I explained that she was born a beautiful baby and that she had been programmed to believe that she was not attractive enough. Once she was able to transform her thinking, to believe she was lovable and attractive she started to feel good about herself and then formed habits and behaviours that demonstrated this. I am happy to say she is now in a loving relationship. I give this example to show how important it is to change our thoughts about ourselves and circumstances if they are not making us happy and fulfilled. My mantra is Change your thoughts – change your life.
It's not available to some-one like me
I want love but can’t find it
I want good health but our family only have to see a cake to put on weight
I want to be happy but I’ve got the depressed gene - it runs in the family
I want to go for promotion but senior positions are not available to someone like me
When we have the limiting belief that something is not available because of our programming, it does not give us the motivation or inclination to try. We stay in fear. I had the belief for many years that coming from a working class background, going to university was not available to my family. How wrong was I? After our two daughters had been to university, I had learnt through my NLP (Neuro linguistic programming) training that everything was available to me so I pushed through my fear with the help of my family and friends, and signed up for a University degree. I now know that this limiting belief was not true! It’s a wonderful feeling to remove these negative thoughts and limiting beliefs about myself.
It’s interesting to treat our negative thoughts like an unwelcome visitor. What is your unwelcome visitor saying to you? Does it chatter incessantly?
Sit quietly, visualise where the voice is in your body, make the voice quiet, make it small and then imagine it leaving your body. Replace the unwelcome visitor with a cheerleader. What does this cheerleader look like, sound like, feel like? Breathe and smile as you visualise the cheerleader willing you on and telling you that you are good enough, that everything is available to you.
With this positive mindset it is possible to be excited for the future – full of hope. Hope will give you the courage and inspiration to take steps to achieve your dreams. When you believe something good is going to happen, and expect it to happen, that is hope. If you have a strong belief, a mindset that is positive and faith then you can be unstoppable and live a happy and purposeful life. So, let your mind help you on your travels through life.
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I like to finish my blogs by passing on great programmes, podcasts and books from inspiring people and thought leaders. One of my hero's, Dr Rangan Chatterjee, now has a programme on BBC Radio 2 on Sunday nights at 10.00 – 12.00 pm. He plays music and has interesting guests and gives tips on wellbeing.
Dr Chatterjee interviewed Dr Edith Eger on his podcast on 1st January 2021.
I have just finished reading her latest book called The Gift. She was a Holocaust survivor, 93 years of age and is an amazing woman who is telling her story so that we can all benefit from her experiences. As Oprah Winfrey said: ‘I will be forever changed by Dr Eger’s story. It is a great thought provoking read on how to survive’.
"In the end, it's not what happens to us that matters most, it's what we choose to do with it." Dr Edith Eger
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I love this quote which is in my self study course book :
“The great affair, the love affair with life, is to live as variously as possible, to groom one’s curiosity like a high-spirited thoroughbred, climb aboard, and gallop over the thick sun struck hills every day. Where there is no risk, the emotional terrain is flat and unyielding and despite all its dimensions, valleys, pinnacles and detours, life will seem to have none of its magnificent geography, only a length. It began in mystery and will end in mystery, but what a savage and beautiful country lies in between”. Diane Ackermann
Here’s to a bright future.
Love Lynda xx