There is so much negativity around at the moment and it is hard to feel good with all the gloom and doom that is surrounding us. In fact, the other day when someone asked me how I was, I felt a bit of guilt saying “I feel great” knowing that there were so many people suffering in the world. But how does that help anyone else if I feel bad too. What I do know is that I can’t change the external environment but I can be in control of my own thoughts and actions. Therefore, I choose to feel good despite what is going on in the outside world. If I feel good, then I can hopefully inspire others to feel good about themselves.
So let's start by being our own cheerleaders. Let's learn to be aware of what we are thinking. Do you know that we have more than 6,000 thoughts a day and they happen to be the same thoughts that we had the day before. This is according to Dr Joe Dispenza – the wonderful neuroscientist who has touched the lives of millions, enabling them to conquer chronic conditions, and even terminal illnesses by teaching us to rewire our brain and recondition our bodies. We therefore need to understand what we are saying to ourselves. Most of us have a critical voice that talks to us saying we are not good enough, not smart enough, not attractive enough, not young enough, not knowledgeable enough, not energetic enough – the list goes on and on.
What the scientists have now proved is that what we say to ourselves has a direct effect on our bodies. It is a hard concept for the majority of us to believe but we can try this out for ourselves. When we are feeling fed up we have low energy but when we are feeling on top of the world, we feel we can do anything. This is because the chemicals in our body are re-acting to what we are thinking – hence the quote “Change your thoughts, change your life.”
So, if you believe this, how about being your own Cheerleader. Sit quietly and think of all the encouraging and inspiring words that others have said about you and all the things you like about yourself. When we feel good we have happy chemicals such as dopamine in our body which is often called the motivational molecule which releases energy and helps us experience pleasure.
I have found in my work as a RTT Therapist that the biggest issue for people is not feeling good enough and having low self esteem and lacking in confidence. Sadly, this is because they have been programmed at some time in their life to believe this lie. One of my clients who was in her 50s had been told when she was a young child that she was clumsy and accident prone and her family were often very critical of her saying “Why can’t you be more like your older sister”. These words had dropped deep into her subconscious mind and she has spent her life believing that she was not good enough and inferior to other people. Sadly, she had the limiting belief that she was different and incapable of being able to change. Once she understood that there was a programme that was running inside her brain, she decided to say “That’s not me now – I am a grown woman and can now see the qualities that I have.”
Is there any limiting beliefs that you have about yourself that are holding you back from feeling good about yourself. Why not from today, start shaking off all negative thoughts about yourself and be your very own cheerleader.
Consider whether the voice inside you is a supporter or a critical bystander. How does this voice talk to you. Spend some time thinking about the role that the voice plays. If the voice is mainly critical and is unhelpful it is important to quieten this voice. Perhaps visualise this voice as an unwelcome visitor and ask it to leave. Now spend time in considering the role that you want this inner voice to play. You could visualise a Cheerleader and give it a name. Visualise what this cheerleader looks like, sounds like and feels like to have the voice of a Cheerleader as your constant companion.
Once you have installed the cheerleader inside you, can you also be a Cheerleader to someone you work with or a friend or loved one. Often we have warm thoughts about others but how often do we let them know how we feel about them. Can you think of 5 people who you admire. What is it that you admire about them? Do they know this? Why not send them a message, text or card telling them what it is about them that you admire. When we give this gift to someone else we feel good about ourselves.
If you would like some help to install the cheerleader inside of you why not book a free consultation with me and I will lead you through the process.
For more information on the wonderful Dr Joe Dispenza, take a look at his website here